What is an Option Dialogue?
The Greek philosopher, Socrates, used probing
questions to challenge his students to discover their own answers. An
Option Dialogue builds on this legacy by utilizing a highly respectful
and effective system of questions with a nonjudgmental and non-directive
attitude. Working with a skilled Option
mentor/counselor, participants uncover and eliminate self-defeating beliefs
and attitudes, which have fueled discomfort, distress and limiting behaviors,
while at the same time increasing their sense of purpose, happiness and
personal power. These dialogues can also be done wonderfully by phone.
of the Option Dialogue:
You are your own best expert. Questions are
designed and asked to help you find your own answers - no advice or interpretations
of your feelings or behaviors will be offered.
There are no right or wrong answers. You choose the focus of exploration
throughout the process and the Option mentor will follow your answers
with a question.
You can change your life. By uncovering and eliminating self-defeating
beliefs you can help yourself become happier, more comfortable, more self-empowered
and more successful in your life.
Please take a few moments to read this, to
understand my role and your role in the process of the dialogue.
We are together, in person or by phone, for
fifty minutes. I am here to be totally present with you, totally accepting
of you, totally nonjudgmental of anything you say or think - to give you
the space to talk about and deal with anything you wish. All that you
say is confidential.
As you share, my purpose is to ask you questions
so that you can discover your own answers, find your own way and come
to your own conclusions. One major premise of the Option Dialogue is that
you are your own best expert. Therefore, your answers are more meaningful
and helpful to you than any suggestions, advice or solutions I could give
you. So I do not give suggestions or advice or try to interpret what you
say. I listen ever so carefully and find within your statements the next
best question to ask you. These questions are not signs of doubt but rather
opportunities for you to clarify and understand your thoughts, feelings
Just a note: You don't ever have to answer
any question I ask - this is your dialogue and you are in charge of what
you choose to say or not say. There are no right or wrong answers. You
can change the subject at anytime, although I might ask you about the
change in direction. I am here only to help - to be a midwife in this
process, helping you find your own answers, which are always within you.
As I travel a great deal, I also do Option
Dialogues by phone, when they cannot be done face to face. My experience
is that they are marvelous either way. We might be able to use Skype as
well. Please call or e-mail me for information or an appointment, using
my contact link, below.
Check out www.option.org
for more information.